About Michael Grinder
Michael Grinder is a master of, and world renowned expert in, the power of influence — the science of non-verbal communication, non-verbal leadership, group dynamics, advanced relationship building skills and presentation skills.
After years of experience as a teacher, Michael has been speaking at conferences and conducting seminars on his areas of expertise across the world.
He has, for years, been seen as America’s educator of educators and is an expert on learning. His work with many education districts and schools has transformed the levels of teaching and learning.
Raised outside Detroit by Jack and Eileen Grinder, Michael was born the second child out of 9 children. His earlier years were marked by sickness and setbacks – born with eczema, he suffered from earaches every winter and asthma every summer, requiring the family to spend the summer months living outside of Detroit.
Also plagued by dyslexia and ADHD, Michael ended up graduating high school at a 4th grade reading level.
Once out of high school, and attending a seminary that had no academic requirements, Michael spent the first two years of University studying to be a Catholic priest. He quickly became concerned that – due to his disorders, lack of sophistication and education – people would not listen to him from the pulpit.
To remedy this, Michael got ahold of the 100 most read novels by doctors and lawyers in America and began teaching himself to read. For two years, Michael woke up an hour before he was allowed to, snuck into a closet, and used the light inside to read. Despite finishing these great works of literature, Michael still prefers to write rather than read.
Exploration in Spirituality
His time in seminary was an opportunity for him to slow down and discover an inner space, a place of prayer and reflection.
Compared to his fellow seminarians, however, Michael felt that he’d never had a personal conversation with the Lord. Because of this, he thought he didn’t have a spiritual basis for being a priest. Additionally, priests are not allowed to get married, and Michael believed that he needed to be married to be a good teacher.
In his own words: “I knew in high school I wanted to be a teacher/coach. My teachers were priests, so in retrospect, I probably mixed up teaching with being a priest. When in seminary, I reflected on how most priests had great rapport with a class – almost a marital relationship – but they couldn’t hold the class accountable for fear of losing their primary relationship.
I was convinced that, to be a good teacher, I had to have a primary relationship outside of school. This would allow me to hold the students accountable without feeling like I lost my primary relationship.”
Building a career, family, and love
The credits Michael earned in seminary were only transferable to a Catholic university, which meant he ultimately ended up at Loyola-Marymount University of Los Angeles.
At this university, Michael earned a BA, MA, and teaching credential. He became a student teacher in Watts and Compton in Los Angeles, then began teaching in southern California.
Around this time, Michael met the love of his life, Gail. The two fell in love and married. He moved up to the central Oregon coast and taught for 2 years, then settled the family in Battle Ground, WA where he taught for 6 years.
In 1979, Michael designed and built his home on a tree farm, which has been home for him and his family ever since. Michael and Gail have 3 children and 10 grandchildren, and spend the majority of their social time with family.
A company is born
The Michael Grinder & Associates office is on their property; it was a mom-and-pop operation for 30 years, but has grown now to a staff of 6 people. The stated purpose of Michael Grinder & Associates is to fulfill Michael’s dreams while he continues to stay in love with Gail. While Michael has talent, he claims he is successful because he compensates for his weaknesses.
Michael Grinder is the pioneer in teaching others how to perceive non-verbal communication in a group setting. He spent his life studying, dissecting and teaching the complexity that underlies all communication. He has developed a unique, new science of influence through non-verbal communication that is rich in practical, immediately applicable skills.
He was personally trained by two well-known experts in the field of communication: Carl Rogers, the wellspring of rapport and relationships, and Michael’s brother Dr. John Grinder, co-founder of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Michael is National Director of NLP in Education.
Michael Grinder’s Mission
In a recent interview, Michael was asked about his “mission in life.” His immediate response:
- Be in love with Gail (Michael’s wife)
- Balance my life with relationships and work
Reflections (by Michael Grinder)
You can find a distillation of 40 years of my applied research by watching my video House of Communication.
These are some of the things that I’m interested in right now:
- I am intrigued by describing the difference between the art and science of communication. Because I operate in the field of non-verbal communication, I’m trying to figure out where the science influences the art. In particular, what does a person need to scientifically understand about non-verbal communication so they can operate on an artisan level.
- We are working on a program called MAGIC, the art of perception. We hope to open this program to our graduate base sometime in November 2019.
- I’m fascinated by perception, how to understand and predict individuals, pairs, and group dynamic interactions
- The differences in influence versus power
- The differences in permission versus authority
- Training design where coaching in one’s professional setting is a requirement of the program
- The use of video taping to study timing and perception training
- Design of courses for people meeting over a span of two years
- Very interested to see how our new book Surviving Your Teen’s Adolescence is received by parents.
- We are very close to launching our first audiobook, narrated by my daughter and ENVoY coach trainer, Krista Grinder-Dettloff. This is the audio recording of the book, A Cat in the Doghouse. Krista and I are proud to have her son (my grandson) as part of the recording.