Couples Workshop

To Love, to Honor, and to Negotiate

Online Workshop Starts Februrary 18, 2022

Discover how nonverbal communication skills can help you reconnect with your partner and enrich your relationship.

This online Couples Workshop will show you how.

We enter our relationships with the best of intentions.

What people don’t tell you is your relationship is more than just you and your partner. Your relationship has three parts: you, your partner, and the relationship itself. 

Even the best relationships need advanced skills that help them communicate and connect on a deeper level. That’s why understanding the nonverbals of communication can help you:

Negotiate more smoothly and without stress.
More easily manage conflict that pops up.
Deepen your friendship and improve your intimacy

This couples communication workshop is for couples of all orientations, no matter how long you’ve been together. If you want to learn how to make your relationship feel easier, this series is for you! Plus, the workshop is entirely virtual — you can attend from the comforts of your home!

Can’t attend a session? No problem! We’ll send you and your sweetie the recording so you can watch it later.

Quick Event Info

New format! The Couples Workshop is 100% online. Snuggle safely at home with your partner while you watch the workshop.
Can’t attend a live session? We’ll send you the recording!
Dates: February 18 to 20, 2022
Time: 11 am PT/ 1 pm CT/ 2pm ET
Price: Previous attendees – $199 per couple
Early bird special – $269 per couple
Day of registration – $299 per couple

Hi, I’m Michael Grinder. Some people call me “the father of nonverbal communication.” After attending one of John Gottman’s workshops with my wife Gail, I was inspired to create To Love, To Honor, and To Negotiate.

This year marks my 21st year of running this workshop where we add “nonverbals” to couples’ communication. I thank Gail for adding her wisdom.

Here’s what we’ll discuss during the online couples workshop:

  • The three factors that produce satisfaction in a relationship.
  • Why males stonewall, and why they need to take breaks during conflicts. What are those gender differences and how they show up in the relationship?
  • Why the art of listening is the secret for handling conflict.
  • How partners are like household pets – the dog comes when called, the cat has an answering machine. When are you the dog, and when are you the cat?
  • Why a “friend of the relationship” is crucial, and how to find and foster those friendships.
  • Why unsolved conflicts have nothing to do with the satisfaction couples find in their relationships.
  • Why you should fight over what you value – not over what you want.
  • A new look at compatibility — is it oversold? 
  • How verbal intercourse leads to intimate intercourse
  • Finale: how to write love letters and set priorities.
Here’s how the couples workshop works:

  • We’ll meet once a week for 90 minutes. Before each session, you’ll have something short to read or watch. You’ll also receive a set of questions based on the pre-learning.
  • For the first 50 minutes, I’ll discuss concepts and skills. Then, I’ll pause so you and your partner can talk off-screen about what was presented.
  • During the session, you’ll have a worksheet to guide your learning.
  • We’ll take a five-minute break and finish with 35 minutes of optional questions and comments.
  • You’ll receive a “Reflections & Implementations” worksheet as a follow-up.
  • Can’t attend a session, or want to re-watch a session? All lessons are recorded so you can view them again.

Here’s What You’ll Learn During the Online Couples Workshop:

  • How knowing your partner’s Love Map can help you connect with them more deeply and easily.
  • Why taking a short break from conflict is a good thing.
  • How you can use the Chairs of Negotiation to talk about what you need, honor each other’s values, and find new solutions – together.
  • Whether you’re a Cat or a Dog in your relationship – and how that affects your relationship style.
  • Proven ways you can streamline your communication skills and lower your stress levels.
  • Why 69 percent of chronic problems are not fixable – and what to do instead.

Past attendees love our workshop with an average rating of


out of 5!

What Are People Saying About This Workshop?

The Couple’s Workshop gave us invaluable tools and insights to work with the issues and challenges that inevitably arise in relationships. We also learned how to love and appreciate each other in new and deeper ways.
– Larry Dillenbeck, 2016 workshop participant

“I think everybody needs that [couples weekend]. It’s good for even healthy marriages- even healthy ones can use more input, fresh ideas on how to make a good thing even better.”
– Bradley Williams, 2016 workshop participant

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